Welcome to another year of awkward interactions with family and friends, when they ask this question: “what would you like for your birthday?” (note: this can apply to all forms of gift giving).
We’ve all stood in this moment… everyone feels the need to give a tangible gift for special occasions. Unfortunately, the majority of those gifts are either forgotten, unused and sadly end up in the donate pile (insert guilty face here – we all know this feeling!).
So, what’s a girl to do?
BE HONEST, explain you simply do not need anything. You are grateful they are thinking of you, but it is not necessary.
Ok… we all know this never works and you end up with a gift you don’t need. This is my solution to this never-ending battle:
BE PROACTIVE (Woot! My PR classes are coming in handy). Create a list of items you ACTUALLY need. Therefore, when the inevitable question is asked, you have a list to refer too (I recommend you keep this on your phone).
Not sure where to start?
Here are some ideas:
+ Consumables, what is the one thing we will always need? Groceries. Where do you shop? Ask for a gift card. Better yet, ask for a gift card to a grocery store you don’t shop at because it is a bit pricy. You might as well indulge. (I always need a bottle of wine).
+ We all have a favorite clothing store. Is there anything in your capsule wardrobe you may need to replace? Ask for a gift card to your favorite store. Most online stores offer gift cards which can be sent to your inbox or delivered through the mail.
+ E-Books or real books – I can’t seem to get onto the E-book train, but the great thing about books, is they can be passed along once finished. Share the knowledge friends.
+ Let’s be honest… we all can use money. Maybe you are paying off debt, saving for a trip or putting money aside for a rainy day. We all love CASH!
+ Do you have a favorite product line? I love LUSH and will eventually need more facial cleanser or shampoo. Gift card please!
+ Is there an activity you want to do, but haven’t gotten around to it? Ask for a gift card to your favorite restaurant, the movies, a spa, pottery lessons (yes please!).
Take a look at my gift giving guide from the 2016 holiday’s – it has some more experience gift ideas!
I realize the most common words are gift cards. Typically, family members hate giving gift cards, because they are a “lazy” way to give, but this is the line I drop:
“I love that you want to buy me something and you don’t have too, but if you insist I would love a gift card to _______. I don’t need the item right now, but I know I will soon!”
Depending on the individual I offer them different options. For example, my grandmother loves to give cash, my family knows not to buy me clothes or products, so gift cards are perfect and my friends understand where I stand on my values. It all comes back to honesty. Don’t waste their time or yours.
I love that moment when someone says “I love that shirt” or “Oh! That LUSH product is my favorite”, because then I can easily say, “I bought it with the gift card you gave me”. No cringing or being forced to come up with how great the item is, because the tangible item purchased is something you love or can eat!
In conclusion: be proactive, be honest and get what you want!
If you were asked today, what would you add to your ‘wish’ list?
Shout out to Sydney a friend and minimalist in the making, for recommending this topic! You are brilliant.